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Saying no is powerful. It can be the difference between a satisfying life and a frustrating life. I used to be the yes person. I never knew when to say no. Even if I didn't want to do something when someone asked me to do something, I would always say yes because I didn't want to let them down or I was afraid what they might think of me, and this did nothing but cause me frustration.
If you are in the same boat and you have issues saying no, this video will help you because I'm going to tell you when it's absolutely necessary to say no and when you have the right to say no.
When you are feeling overwhelmed already and stressed out. Don't just pile on more frustration. If you are already having a hard time with life, say no.
Also, always say no when you are doing too much. If you are very busy already, say no. Don't say yes. Don't keep piling things on and having all of these obligations because if you do that, you won't even be able to meet the obligations in the first place because you'll be too busy. You can't keep them all. So stop making those promises. If you are too busy say no.
And say no when you are feeling sick or when you are feeling tired. Listen to your body. Don't push yourself to do things if you're not up to it. If your body's telling you no, then you should tell the other person no.
So those were scenarios when you absolutely have to say no. Now, I'm going to give you three when you have the right to say no and I highly suggest you say no any way to these.
You also have the right to say no when it's not your issue. This is important, especially when it comes to family. I know in the past when my family had issues and they were bickering between each other or they had any kind of other situation, they will always come to me and say, "Hey Shane, can you talk to them? Can you do this? Can you do that," to help out. And it's fine to help family and I have no problems with that, but it became a burden to me and my family because I was always doing something, always saying yes and doing for other people when they should have been doing that. So we need to avoid doing this. When it's not your issue, you have the right to say no.
You also have the right to say no when you feel like you are being taken for granted or being taken advantage of. And notice I said feel. It's not always the case that someone is trying to take advantage of you. It's not always the case, especially if you help a lot of people out or people really rely on you. But if you feel like your kindness is being taken advantage of, then you need to say no because in your mind, eventually you're going to start to have some animosity for that person and you don't want that, especially if they really are not trying to take advantage of you. So it's best to just say no in the first place.
You also have the right to say no when you deserve time for yourself. This is one of the biggest reasons why people's lives are out of whack, they don't spend any time for themselves. And one of the biggest reasons for that is because they're always doing something for someone else. Start saying no to other people and start saying yes to you. Focus on self-care. If you have no time for self-care at all, you need to look at all the yeses in your life and start changing those to nos.
I know that saying no is very hard for people. I was in your shoes, I know. So instead of me just telling you, "Hey, just start saying no to everything," use this video as a guide so you know exactly when you absolutely need to say no and when you have the right to say no. Many people don't even know when they should say no, so I'm hoping that this video helps you out.
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